A Time for Reflection

St. Patrick’s Day has a new meaning in my household: One year ago, my husband joined me working from home. Our dining room became his office. Life felt scary, uncertain, and unfamiliar. Even with all the uncertainty, we expected that he’d be back to his office in a few short weeks and that life would return to normal. In retrospect, that was wishful thinking on our part. One year later, there is still uncertainty; now, however, we are filled with hope and optimism.

We’ve had a year of monitoring the status of cases, hospitalizations, recoveries, and deaths related to Covid-19. I’ve got a spreadsheet that tracks these stats so that when media, friends, and family report that numbers are going up or numbers are going down, I can see those numbers in context and focus on trends. Hysteria-producing headlines can easily result in heated discussions over these numbers – even when both parties agree about their meaning. Frustration and anger are common as we grapple with the lack of control we have over our lives.

We also experienced a contentious presidential election during this pandemic. The results were contested, the appeals were contested, a group stormed the US Capitol to stop confirmation of the vote that confirmed the election results. A nation so divided that some called this group patriots while others called them terrorists. The result: More fear and uncertainty. More anger and frustration. A time for reflection

And, yet, throughout all of this we have seen examples of kindness each and every day.

  • Neighbors helping neighbors.
  • Communities supporting local businesses.
  • Teachers supporting students as young people cope with loss of direct connection to classmates, friends, teachers, and relatives.
  • Businesses finding innovative ways to keep their doors: think about the restaurant industry – so many challenges, so many new ways to serve their customers!
  • People working together to support friends and families as weddings were scheduled, rescheduled, scaled down, or postponed.

As I look back at this past year, I wonder:

  • What will retail look like moving forward?
  • How will the entertainment business reinvent itself?
  • Will the Covid-19 vaccine work?
  • Will the Covid-19 vaccine be an annual shot similar to the flu shot?
  • How will young people rebound from the loneliness they’ve experienced?
  • How will businesses look at conferences in the future – in person v. virtual?

As I look back at this past year, I am grateful for so much:

  • My husband, my home, my health.
  • Friends and family who stepped up their game in a big way to stay connected.
  • I was able to strengthen some relationships with friends. We got creative with how we could stay in touch.
  • Zoom. Yes, zoom. While may be experiencing zoom fatigue after a year, zoom kept us face-to-face with friends, family, and colleagues.
  • Online fitness classes that kept me balanced.
  • An opportunity to slow down, take stock of my life, and make adjustments.

As I look at life today, I am hopeful that:

  • Whatever new normal we settle into, we will be more enlightened, thoughtful, and mindful.
  • As we gain more control over our lives, anger and frustration will be replaced with even more kindness toward each other.
  • The silver linings we have found will result in establishing new traditions, habits, and lifestyles.

I encourage you to set aside some time today to reflect over the past year.

  • Can you identify any silver linings?
  • What temporary and permanent changes have you made throughout the past year?
  • Have your priorities changed?
  • What will you remember most about this past year?

Take time to process all that you’ve experienced over the past year. Certainly, we’re reminded on the daily that we’re not finished with this pandemic; yet today, I choose to feel hopeful. I hope you have the same feeling.

A Time for Reflection was last modified: March 17th, 2021 by Deb Nelson

Welcome November: A Month of Giving Thanks and the Thankful Pumpkin

November and thanks go together like peanut butter and jelly. The mention of Thanksgiving brings to mind memories of families gathered around a table for a feast that takes hours to prepare and minutes to devour.

It’s common for us to travel long distances through wild weather to enjoy this annual tradition. Will that happen in 2020? Maybe. Maybe not. Regardless of whether Thanksgiving 2020 looks like Thanksgiving 2019, there is much to be thankful for and celebrate. And there is much anxiety as well.

Spoiler alert – there is good news to report: Enter the Thankful Pumpkin to lend a hand in getting our emotions under control so we can enjoy and appreciate this season of giving thanks.

Thankful PumpkinEight years ago, Amy Latta wanted to highlight positive aspects in her family’s life – to benefit both herself and her kids as she taught them about gratitude and Thanksgiving. Here’s how YOU can enjoy a Thankful Pumpkin:

Buy a pumpkin. Any size, any color will work.

Write whatever it is you’re grateful for (items / people / experiences) on that pumpkin with a permanent marker.

Here are a few examples to get you thinking:

A warm home

Nutritious food for you and your family

Social media – yes, social media can be a good thing! When used for good, it keeps us connected to friends and family, allows us to stay in the know about things that matter to us, and more.

Zoom – to keep you connected with friends, family, colleagues near and far

Favorite places to visit

Television shows that have made you laugh during the pandemic

There is no need to complete your Thankful Pumpkin on one sitting; in fact, it’s great to make this an ongoing event throughout the month.

Keep your Thankful Pumpkin in a place where you and your family will see it regularly. Continual reminders of those things that bring a smile to our face can add a joyful element to your day.PCRM - Nutritious Pumpkin

And, of course, our friends at Physicians Committee for Responsible remind us in the image to the right of the health benefits of including pumpkin in our diet.

Give it a try! Let me know if the Thankful Pumpkin brightens your day and lifts your spirits!

Welcome November: A Month of Giving Thanks and the Thankful Pumpkin was last modified: November 5th, 2020 by Deb Nelson

Attitude of Gratitude: There’s a Lot to be Grateful for in my Life

A favorite lunch spot along Maine's rocky coast in Bar Harbor. Uninvited seagulls never fail to join us.
A favorite lunch spot along Maine’s rocky coast in Bar Harbor. Uninvited seagulls never fail to join us.

Faceboook is overflowing with gratitude challenges. People are challenging their friends, family, and colleagues to identify those things in their lives for which they’re grateful. My friend, Maura Halkiotis, challenged me to identify and post three things I’m grateful for each day for five days. I altered the challenge a bit: here’s my list – all 15 in one day, no particular order except for number 15 (no skipping ahead).

  1. Laughter. Listening to a child’s infectious giggle or an adult’s belly laugh stops me in my tracks and immediately puts a smile on my face.
  2. Coffee Shops. Working out of my home as a consultant has given me a great appreciation of coffee shops – even though I’ve ditched coffee for green tea. These satellite offices provide a place for me to meet with clients; allow me to be in a room with people when I’ve spent too much time alone; and, of course, there’s always a great cup of tea or snack awaiting.
  3. Friends and Family. There is nothing like sharing successes and setbacks with people I love and respect. I’m blessed to have family and friends who open their hearts and homes to my husband and me; and I’m especially grateful for those of you who share your children’s worlds with us.

    My preferred mode of travel takes me through the marshes of Cape Cod.
    My preferred mode of travel takes me through the marshes of Cape Cod.
  4. My Bike. My pink bike has taken me places I never imagined I’d travel. And, yes, I’m grateful each of those 30 gears to power me over hills and through trails.
  5. Water, Water Everywhere. Beaches, marshes, lakes are mesmerizing. I feel lucky every day to live in the beautiful State of Maine. The rocky coast is a stunning backdrop for a good life.
  6. Second Chances. We can all use a do-over every now and again.
  7. Living in a Country Where Disagreements / Debate Take Place. While our country certainly has its issues, there’s no place in the world I’d rather live. Disagreements can be debated publicly; political change takes place seamlessly; in spite of disagreements, there is a sense of compassion (most of the time) that transcends politics.
  8. Generosity and Philanthropy. Working in the nonprofit sector allowed me to see on a daily basis how dedicated people are to helping those in need. The generosity of people to share their time, talent, and financial resources is truly heart-warming.
  9. Public Spaces. Imagine a world without public beaches, parks, or museums. No thank you.
  10. Pioneers. I’m so grateful for those bold pioneers who turn a deaf ear to the naysayers and forge a new path.
  11. My Health. I’ve been researching the relationship(s) surrounding lifestyle and cancer for close to three years now. I’m grateful every day to be healthy, sometimes in spite of my choices, and sometimes because of my choices.
  12. Loud Music. Whether I’m cooking in my kitchen or driving my car, a loud blast of music can change the shape of the day.
  13. Artists. Creativity provided by artists – photographers, painters, singers, musicians, etc. – opens our eyes to new possibilities and perspectives.
  14. Social Media. The power and ease of connecting has never been greater since social media entered our world. Personal and professional lives collide, multi-generational conversations bloom, and the world is a better place for it.
  15. John Nelson. I saved the best for last. I’m grateful every minute of every day that John is in my life. Lucky me to have a husband who is my best cheerleader, sounding board, and friend.

This was a valuable exercise for me to complete. While it may sound a bit contrived, developing an attitude of gratitude can change the way you see the world AND the way the world sees you. So give it a shot: I encourage (or should I say challenge)  you to take a few minutes and think about those people / places / things that make you smile even when you’re trying your hardest to be cranky. Don’t let anyone else write your story; it’s yours to tell.

Attitude of Gratitude: There’s a Lot to be Grateful for in my Life was last modified: September 18th, 2014 by Deb Nelson